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  HELLO need advice for college

  by tsunami_rid3r in

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  2. friends

  ok, since i missed out on developing when i was 14-18, i'm gonna need help with girls, friends, keeping them, and just having fun.

  recap for the past week:

  one day i hung out a with this dude from fish camp.

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  La Capra

  I went straight to college after high school, and had to do the JW thing for a bit (one year, then I bailed on the witness thing).

  I have two suggestions:

  1) There is a counseling center at your school, and I think you should go down there and hook up with a counselor. It will help you to get all your history out with someone who specializes with your age group. Your plan to leave the past behind is understandable, but will keep coming back to bite you in the ass until you come to terms with it. If you don't get a grip, you'll start dropping balls before you get them all up in the air.

  2) Regularly schedule some time every week to do something related to your future career...join professional organizations (there are almost always student chapters), read professional journals or magazines, connect with other students in your major, start looking into internships and summer jobs...(I envision a summer job for you that keeps you from going home for the summer).

  The friend thing and the girl thing will work themselves out. When someone is doing things that are good for him, and that are healthy and productive, good people start coming into their life. Flitting around like a firefly is fun, silly and distracting, but as it seems you have noticed, it can be confusing as to who of these partymates is a true friend. Balance out your partying with activities that lend themselves to a productive outcome, so when there isn't a party, or other fireflies to flit around with, you have other interesting activities to keep you occupied.

  Study hard, do well in classes, escape the cult and have a successful life.
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  Reasons for having a "Worldly" boy/girlfriend while still in?

  by damselfly in

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  2. experiences

  when i was a still a teenage jw ( sounds like a bad b movie drive in flick ) i had a "worldly" boyfriend.

  i didn't want anything to do with the jw's but knew i wasn't strong enough to just walk away.

  he became the focus of my family's hatred and the reason they believed i left (nothing could have been farther from the truth) this helped me to avoid explantions of why i didn't believe.

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  Damselfly,

  I had one of those, too. He was supposed to be my out. He was a year ahead in school, and was heading off to college and I was going to follow. Once he was in college, my mom sent out the local elders...Between the local elders, my mom and his misplaced love for me, he converted. We broke up, I left the religion after my first year of college and he ended up marrying our classmate's mother.

  That plan really backfired (for him, unfortunately. My biggest regret in my life, thus far, dragging him into the cult). But I ended up walking away 100% on my terms and on my own volition.

  Shoshana
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  taking suggestions for dorm decor

  by tsunami_rid3r in

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  2. friends

  posters?

  street signs?

  lights?

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  Paint a yellow brick road on the hallway floor leading to your digs.....follow it, follow it, follow it, follow it. Follow the yellow brick road...

  Shoshana
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  WBTS Discontinues Publishing Deluxe (Gold Leaf) NWT Bible!?!?

  by AMNESIAN in

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  2. friends

  would some hearty and reliable soul who still attends meetings of jws confirm and elaborate on the letter being read to congregations in the us this week regarding the discontinuing of the publishing and distribution of the "deluxe" nwt bible in favor of a "soft cover" version of the same (whatever exactly that means) instead???.

  (g_d, have things really come to this???).

  amnesian

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  When I was about 16 I got the deep red pig skin one. I still have it, on my bookcase (all other literature enjoyed a cathartic bonfire).

  An item of note, of which this thread reminds me, is that I only put my first name in it. That says so much about how far I've come.

  I guess I should take care of it now, if they can't get them anymore, eh?

  Shoshana
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  taking suggestions for dorm decor

  by tsunami_rid3r in

  1. jw
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  posters?

  street signs?

  lights?

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  Out here in California, there are street fairs and crafts shows. At almost all of them, someone is selling big rectangles of Batik fabric, with finished edges. They can be used as bedspreads, picnic blankets, and the girls wear them as sarongs. Some of them have really cool designs and look great hanging on a wall. They don't rip up like posters, they have the whole bohemian thing going on, and they're bigger than posters, so you they fill in a lot of wall space.

  And in a pinch, you could be wearing the most-cool toga in seconds.

  Try not to go too crazy Tsu, you are there to get an education and a career. There is partying after college, too, ya know.

  Shoshana
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  i want a tattoo!!!

  by tsunami_rid3r in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i want it covering my left bicep, shoulder, and left boob.

  add a nipple ring on the left side too.

  maybe tribal, maybe a big ass snake, i dont know, something that expresses me, something artsy...ideas?

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  Tsu-

  Dude, one of these days you will do something to stop the Gravy Train. This could be it. You really don't want to put your parents in a position to put their foot down right now, do you?

  Reasons to wait:

  1) You will change your mind

  2) You still have some growing to do

  3) If you get fat one day the arrows will look like telephone poles

  4) Your parents could cut you off

  And about the car-Since Pops is paying, you don't have a choice, get over it. The only thing you could do is buy your own choice of car outright and refuse to drive the Mustang. Otherwise, just go with it. Your education is key to your life, don't go pissing off the benefactors over little things.

  Shoshana
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  Status Report!!!!!!!

  by tsunami_rid3r in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok this is where i tell whats going on in my exciting life and all of you give me advice.

  1)is a seashell necklace wrapped around a cowboy hat cool or what?

  2)what stuff should i bring to the dorm?

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  Once you get to school, you gotta get some kind of a job related to your major so that you are unable to go home on many weekends.

  Go to local meetings here and there, but mix up the congregations (the whole rolling stone gathering no moss thing)

  Here in California, the khaki/sport coat combo was acceptable for meetings. Just keep a selection of sport coats and ties in the trunk of your car. You can slip them on somewhere between the dorm and the hall.

  If your parents are willing to buy you a newer car, just take it. If you feel indebted, or obligated, you can always give it back, or pay them back later.

  Why do you need a blender? Are you a blended margarita junky?

  There are laundry facilities are in the dorms, and a great place to meet girls, if I recall.

  Lots of theft in the dorms, and you are bringing a number of desirable "toys." Please be prudent.

  Did you pack your graphing calculator? Your dictionary and thesaurus? Ear plugs? Condoms?

  You are going to have so much fun. Study hard, become successful, and leave the borg behind.

  Shoshana
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  "peace and security"

  by rebel8 in

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  tony blair just said those words on cnn.

  must be thee end.

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  In the mid 80s the UN declared it the year of "Peace and Security." With the double whammy of the UN and the talisman of "Peace and Security" failing to manifest armaggedon and ensuing paradise, Tony Blair's announcement ought only create a white-head sized blip in the JWs.

  How many of you think that most JWs, upon hearing this news, secretly hope that this is not it?

  Shoshana
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  named Unbaptized Publisher at the meeting last night...............

  by Buck in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  last nite they announced i was an unbaptized publisher.

  everyone clapped and there was much congratulations from everyone after it was over.

  my girlfriend has never been happier.

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  After being gone so long (18 years!), I honestly do not remember that "unbaptized publisher" announcements were made.

  Am I being overly negative by pointing out that such an announcement puts Buck in the position of being shunned should he ever choose to return to the ranks of unbaptized "unpublishers"?

  Probably just pointing out the obvious...

  Shoshana
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  How long is too long?

  by Insomniac in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  just a question, for those who might know.

  how long should you hang onto a relationship, when it's becoming undeniably clear that it's going nowhere?.

  i'm so in love, with the most wonderful person i've ever known.

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  After six and a half years....

  I just wish he'd care enough to make me happy.

  You've said it all in just a few words.

  Is what you have with him really enough? If it isn't then as difficult as it is, it is probably time to move on. You won't have enough without him, true, but you are in a position to have enough with someone else. If you stay with him, you just won't have enough, and (to put it crudely) you will be off the market.

  The deal with marriage is that it is the only way (besides adoption) that people who were born unrelated can become "kin." Family is the foundation of any society. This is not some childhood fantasy, or old-fashioned notion. It is so deeply connected with the human condition that people have fought for the right to marry, against astronomical opposition, throughout human history, in every culture. That you want all that the notion stands for is just fine, and not to be criticized.

  What's enough? Only you know.

  Shoshana